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Married or move on11/9/2023 ![]() We evolved in small communities without nearly as many available options. We evolved to live short lives, during which life-altering 60-year commitments weren’t a thing. The typical human isn’t really equipped to make The Decision. Your relationship needs to be converted into Everything Forever or Nothing Ever Again. For most of us, society’s rules are our rules, and as you and your person walk down your blue balance beam, you can feel the walking space melt away around you. To help right the wrong, society will begin to apply pressure on the couple, from all angles. ![]() And if too many years go by in a relationship without The Decision being made, society decides that something must be wrong. To society, a relationship is simply a testing ground-an incubator that prepares you for The Decision. Society, in most parts of the world, doesn’t like when a relationship lasts too long. You put away both the rose-colored glasses and the shit-colored glasses and see who you’re really dating: a three-dimensional, one-of-a-kind, beautiful, piece-of-shit human being.īut just when things get simple, something else starts to happen: Sometimes things go further south, as butterflies and rainbows turn into frustration and disillusionment, and the relationship that used to lift you up seems to now be boxing you in.Īll of the negative qualities you couldn’t see in the fog of love are suddenly right in your face, like a weight that’s dragging you down.Ī lot of relationships end right about here.īut maybe, having seen the dark side of your partner, you step back and take a long look at both the good and bad together. And it starts to dawn on you that you might be dating a fucking dick. Some of those funny quirks you adored early on seem to be striking you as more annoying than funny. The perfect person you found starts to say and do imperfect things. The unicorns turn into horses and then bikes and then one day, you’re not riding anything at all. It goes on like this for a while, but as the months pass, you notice things changing. You’ve left the rest of shitty humanity behind, and it feels great. ![]() Your new relationship is with you all the time, even when you’re not together. Sometimes a platonic friendship forms first and tension builds under the surface until an unexpected kiss lights the friendship on fire.īut there’s usually some first time that this happens: Some people start seeing each other, but they keep things black and white until a “So are we doing this?” conversation makes it official. Some people go on a date, and then another date, and then another, and one day it’s just clear to both of them that they’re in a relationship. There’s not really any normal way to start a relationship.
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